The story of Malavika, a 45-year-old musician from Chennai, reveals why life isn’t a piece of cake for people who identify as asexual.
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The first thing that appears on the website of Asexuality India is a picture of a cake. The bright pink cake with gems and chocolate wafers sprinkled on it isn’t an indication to show that life is a piece of cake for the asexual community. It sort of summaries their sexuality-“Welcome to Asexuality India…Where anything is better than sex, but we prefer CAKE!”
The story of Malavika*, a 45-year-old musician from Chennai, reveals why life isn’t a piece vegan chat room of cake for people who identify as asexual. Worse still, people who are in a relationship with someone who isn’t asexual and cannot quite accept their partner’s identity.
Malavika only realized that she’s asexual in 2008. That was 12 years after her marriage. For years before that, she struggled to understand why she wouldn’t ever enjoy sex with her husband whom she dearly loves. “I was penetration repulsed,” she said.
Things weren’t easy. Her husband took her to many psychologists and several gynecologists to detect exactly what is ‘wrong’ with her. (mai mult…)